sâmbătă, 30 iulie 2011

My Wife Wants to Be Single! How to Mend Your Marriage

Many people will tell you that you give up a lot when you venture into married life from single living. Typically those individuals are the ones that have either never been married or are in the midst of a bitter divorce battle. You're a man who enjoys being married and feels that he's found his place in the world. It's right next to your wife. That's all well and good until your wife tells you that she isn't feeling as fulfilled within the relationship as you are. If your wife decides that married life isn't for her anymore, you have a problem on your hands that you just can't ignore. When a wife wants to be single, and her husband wants to be married, that's a critical crossroads for the future of the relationship.
Before you fly off the handle and allow your emotions to consume you, it's important that you come to some sort of understanding about why your wife wants to be single. Women tend to be very emotional and your wife may be reacting strongly to a recent conflict between the two of you. Perhaps when she was in an anger filled state she decided that she'd rather be on her own than try and deal with you for another moment. If that's the case, it may be worthwhile to revisit the topic of discussion that lead to the argument so you two can work it out with compromise. Women sometimes hold grudges and that resentment may be eating your wife up inside causing her to want to distance herself from you.
If your wife`s desire to be single  stems from ongoing issues between the two of you it's necessary for you to handle this situation a bit differently. Things aren't going to simply blow over. You need to address the root of the problem if you stand any chance of repairing your already tenuous relationship. The only real way to identify what is causing your wife to want to leave the marriage is by asking her. She may be reluctant to share but you have to assure her that you won't overreact or discount what she feels. If she senses that you're truly willing to hear her out, you'll be able to get to the bottom of what is going on and that will give you a place to begin to fix things.
If your wife is persistent with her desire to be single, she may suggest a temporary separation. It's easy to panic at the mere mention of this because all you see is your marriage disappearing before your very eyes. Sometimes a separation is just what a marriage in peril needs to get back on track. Some emotional and physical distance can help tremendously in that it gives you both a chance to really think about what has been happening between you and what needs to be done to change it. It also allows enough breathing room that your wife may soon miss you. It's one thing to think you want to be single and it's a much different thing to actually experience it. Taking a step back from the stress of the conflicts you two are facing may help your wife see how much she truly does need you.

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